We are each designed with the capability to understand what others might be going through or experiencing, and it isn’t always our first instinct to do so.
We usually see things through our own perspective first, and we often get stuck in our own point of view, not realizing we are looking at things through a strictly personal lens. This leads to us needing to be understood, rather than being someone who extends our understanding to others. The problem with needing to be understood is that it will frequently end up with us feeling disappointed, as most people don’t spend most of their lives seeking to understand others. Not because they don’t want to; because it’s not automatic. Wanting to be understood is an automatic reaction. Our work is to be able to choose a higher way.
Giving up our need to be understood, and instead choosing to be someone who understands, takes work. It is the work that gives us access to freedom from the opinions and points of view of others, and even of ourselves. Being someone who seeks to understand is what gives us our power back as it takes us out of reaction and puts us back into real choice, where we can be the loving and empowering people we want to be.
Being understood feels nice, and being someone who understands is truly rewarding.