Being responsible for our past is different than being constrained by it.
Being responsible means that we are interested in what has worked and what hasn't worked up until this point, from a place of curiosity and commitment to being our best. It means that we go back and apologize when we need to, from a place of having forgiven ourselves while discerning that was undesirable. It means that we can value our achievements and contributions without being attached to them or carrying them forward when they no longer serve us. It means we can make requests and give feedback based on what hasn't worked in the past, coming from a place of possibility and unconditional love. Being unconstrained by the past doesn't mean we ignore it. It means that we aren't stopped in creating what we we are meant to create next simply because something has been a different way before this moment.
Responsibility for the past helps us get freed up to move forward. Being burdened by it keeps us stuck. It is often easier is hide behind burden than it is to step into responsibility, and we are all powerful enough to do the more challenging and worthwhile work . Choosing to be responsible takes courage, and most importantly, it takes a perspective of unconditional love for yourself and others. Unconditional love gives a us a place of lightness and brightness to come from, which gives us the freedom to acknowledge, appreciate, and forgive the past without limiting what is possible for the future (for us or anyone else).